My W continues to see the OM and I cant control that it is her choice. It is not a deal breaker for me but I won't live in an open M she knows this and is still on her own journey so she needs to complete that before anything can happen.
You know Nit, I really get tired of hearing men saying....."I can't control that".....and continue doing nothing whatsoever about his own choices and direction, and allows such horrible disrespect from a wayward W. When a man uses it for an excuse or his reasoning behind his own lack of action....THAT is what just too much! Why would you expect any woman to want a H who just lays down and lets her wipe poop all over?
First of all, you say this situation and all that she has done to you is NOT a deal breaker. I am curious as to what WOULD be a deal breaker for you?
Second, you say you won't live in an open M. Of course you will. There's not a doubt in my mind. Because you have been doing it......for how long now?
Ironically, you are still using the same title to your threads, afraid you've waited too long. I agree, you have waited around too long! You are still hoping she will simply change her mind and give you another chance. A wayward W is not your typical lady who has to leave her M. A wayward is mean, cruel, hateful, lying, selfish cheaters who have absolutely no respect. The things you've considered as DBing will have no affect on her.
You sit back as she brings OM's dirty clothes into your home and watch her do his laundry while you try to make chit-chat? Now why wouldn't a gal be attracted to a H like that kind of guy? You have to do more than "pretend" you don't notice. But then you whine to her about why they can't use a laundry-mat. Are you hoping she will feel sorry for you and come to her senses of the strong man she is leaving? Nit, it won't work that way.
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Well, I guess I finally had enough. I asked when will she be done washing her clothes because I wanted to do some of mine. She answered with an attitude Why? This caught me off guard a bit and I said because I want to do mine just wondered how long but no worries.
Is that the best you've got?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
