In most R's, the partners trade off being givers/takers at various times, trading off is "normal" ... so how did this imbalance come about?
I think her and I give and take in different areas, she gives in the area of setting up appts, paying bills, scheduling activities ... where I gave emotionally ... I am not so sure we spoke the others LL later on in our marriage
Originally Posted By: TSquared2
How did you lose you? Why?
I allowed her to dictate my actions ... she would go off and I became the "yes maam" push over in certain areas ... picking battles, but I gave so much ground up ... I would fight back in certain areas and at times I think she would just test these to see if I had a back bone left.
Originally Posted By: TSquared2
Why did she have to be in control of everything? How did you contribute to that?
Why? ... I am not sure .. she even admits it and thats her issue, Like I said above .. I think it was just to avoid conflict that she was always looking for ... knowing what I know now .. it was not even about the issue, she was hurt about something deeper and looking to fight about it regardless .. so she would go looking to pick a fight.
