Do I walk away from WAW? (1)

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Well, she ended up texting to get the key around 2pm. Came by my work at 3 and seemed really out of it, and said she must have caught a virus. I really have no idea what is up and what is down with her health at this point. Between the general lack of energy she's had for months (years really), an enlarged thyroid (which emerged right around the time of BD), her drinking (which she is now hiding from me more or less completely, it feels like shes leaving the house to drink, but i really dont know), and her generally weakened immune system, I have NO idea what to make of her condition on any given day. And yes, I can only assume that she didnt go to work at all yesterday, and spent the morning resting in OMs bed. This isnt even hurtful to me at this point, its just profoundly strange and sad.

This is where I need BD advice. On the one hand, I am focusing on what I need to do to provide for the kids and myself without her help (I couldnt even rely on her to pick up cereal and juice boxes yesterday), and I feel like I'm making positive strides towards that. I can do it without her. On the other, I feel like she really needs to address whatever it is that is wrong with her, in order to be my partner in parenting, much less my partner in marriage. It feels like any statements I make to her about this are pursuing and pressuring, and also will probably only elicit a negative reaction from her.

It feels like were in a cartoon and we've both run off of the cliff, and neither one of us wants to look down and realize that we aren't standing on anything. Do I just let her fall?