New here, my fairytale gone wrong

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Thank you so much for the words of encouragement. I have thought about what uRworthy said and you are totally right. I think I knew that in my heart but to have it at the forefront of my mind is a good thing. I know about the whole "affair down" concept, I just hope he affaired-WAY-down so that it implodes sooner.

Of course, just because it implodes with her doesn't mean he comes out of this crisis or comes to his senses and realizes what he has in me and our family. I realize that may take a long time, if ever. I am just praying like crazy and can't shake this gut instinct (or maybe God's voice) that our R is not over forever, as a couple. Of course, we will always have some sort of R since we have 3 kids together.

I have also been considering moving to PA where H is. Simply so that my kids can see their Dad on a more regular basis. His reaction to this is not to like it because he feels they are happy and secure here, where we have the support of friends, family, school and church. He also says that he may have to move for work again in the next 1-2 years and he doesn't want me to get mad about that. My thoughts are that I was already unhappy with the amount he was away (approx 85% of their lives) and that needs to change, it is of utmost importance that he is in their lives on a regular basis. Of course, the man he is now and the choices he is making are not necessarily what I need them to see in a father. Once he comes out of this MLC he may make different decisions or begin coming back here more often so I am unsure of what I should do.

Any advice or BTDT on that?