I KNOW it takes two to create a dysfunctional marriage. I KNOW this. However, only one of you is trying right now. Only one of you is willing to look honestly at their part in contributing to dysfunction.
And the other one, the WAS... is running away, blaming, not acknowledging their part in the mess.
Look back to learn, sure, to fix your problems, certainly. But let's not marinate in it. Let's have some balance, please.
When you examine the past, make sure you spend an equal amount of time focusing on the future. Focus on all the good things that will come about from the lessons you're learning.
THANK YOU FOR THIS.
BF:40 M:33 SD: 12 T: 8, never married, no kids together BD: 8/4, "I'm just done", "...too tired and burnt to try". PA confirmed 8/5 "It happened, but it's been over for almost a year".
