So, two things (at least) that I've noticed I'm dwelling on, that I need to take steps to change (change the fact that I'm dwelling on them that is).
One is that W said she is moving out...that she MUST move out to get some distance from me and clarity regarding our sitch, but nothing has been said about actually moving out since then. I have to fight the urge to ask her what's going on regarding that.
The other is that I know she has been speaking off and on with a lawyer, and when she first apprised me of this (she came home from an IC session and said her IC had suggested she contact one and had given her some contact info and that she had indeed called) she said she would keep me in the loop regarding what she was discussing/legalities in order to keep our split as open-book and amicable as possible. Since that initial call however, W hasn't mentioned any of her ongoing contact with the lawyer. I only know about it because she apparently discusses it with her father, who for better or worse typically clues me in on what W tells him. He doesn't tell me particulars (and I don't ask), but he'll say things like "I saw W and she told me she spoke with the lawyer again today..." So I've been fighting the urge to ask W what's going on regarding that.
There is a part of me that is making the HUGE assumption that W deciding she would go to MC and not having moved out yet are merely legal maneuvers. I don't like that I'm thinking that way... I feel like I shouldn't be focusing on that at all... but the past couple of days it's been hard not to. Definitely something I'm struggling with.
H: 43 W: 37 M: 11 years T: 12 years S: 11 D: 8 ILYBINILWY, "I want to move out" and "I want a divorce": 3/23/14 MC started: 9/22/14 Affair and past infidelity discovered: 9/26/14 Piecing: 10/20/14
