Wife Still in MLC but has now left #4

[LoisB]

And to answer Lois, Mach didn't provide any "low blow".

I stopped posting to Matt because I got tired of having the same conversation over and over again just using different words.

So, is there a closed, invite-only vet club where only a special few are allowed to decide who deserves a post and who doesn't? Let's all take a vote on whether Matt deserves a post?? Give me a break. How about owning what you feel/think and allow others to do the same?

Personally, if I was new to this and someone told me that this crowd of wise elders wasn't posting on my thread because I was too redundant or couldn't get my act together...I would take it hard and may decide I wasn't worth the effort.

These are fragile people in fragile situations and, sometimes, I think people with lots of time on the boards feel overly confident about their therapy skills.

In an A.A. meeting, you can only speak for yourself and I think that's a good rule for this board. If someone, in an A.A. meeting said to a newly recovering person..."Hey, the old-timers think you aren't worth the time...? You whine too much."

I just think there's another way that could have been put...

"Matt, in MY experience...you seem to say the same thing over and over."

as opposed to...

"Hey Matt, the whole state of Texas thinks you are a big dummy."

Isn't it on Matt to figure this out for himself based on experience of others, individually?