YOU are a wonderful, strong, capable woman. If you aren't ready to file, then it's nobody's GD business but your own.
Something about our broken marriages brings out every opinion from everyone. It's exhausting.
Own your decisions. Own it. YOU aren't ready to file. OWN IT. We all support you here, no matter what you decide.
My family is full of some really opinionated, controlling, domineering personalities and I have had to, for my own sanity, tell them to all shut the Eff up. Shut up and allow me to hear my own voice.
I hear struggling with what you think you SHOULD be doing and what you WANT to do.
This isn't there marriage, their life, their whatever. Marriage is a covenant and you are treating it with the seriousness it deserves. You are honoring your vows. Not a damn thing wrong with that.
But, Bright, if you are sick of forwarding him his porn...put a stop to it. That has to feel kinda gross...you bring up the Playboy a lot.
He's had it pretty good in all of this. He knows you are there as a safety net when he needs you. Maybe think about putting up some thicker boundaries so you don't feel compromised. That has nothing to do with the marriage license...that's just about your integrity and confidence. Ask for what you deserve.
If you are serious about shaking things up...What about texting him something like, "Hey D-bag, get your Playboy delivered to your own damn house. Think you can handle that?"
Seriously, rock the boat a bit see what happens. He ain't going nowhere.
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
