Yikes, step away folks...Pissing contest in progress. :-)
Matt, I love ya. You are an awesome guy and obviously love your wife and kids deeply.
I agree with Mach about the victim thing.
I've said before...every paragraph you write about your W's behavior could be summed up in one sentence.
W has hurt me by _________________. I'm angry with W because _______________.
The play-by-play of every action, betrayal...doesn't really serve you well.
I know the boards can be a treacherous place sometimes. Every armchair therapist can jump in and give you the How To and 411 on your life. I get it. It can be overwhelming.
The key is to find YOUR TRUTH in all of this.
Personally, I think we all do things for good reason...including our spouses...I'm sure that if I were to watch a movie reel of Smokey's life, it would make perfect sense why he has done the things he has...
The same goes for YOU. Figure out why you are so stuck on being the victim. What about your childhood, personality, person makes you so susceptible to this? Why do you focus so intensely on her actions?
I mean, YES, she is doing and saying and behaving selfishly...I don't think anyone would dispute this...but, why are you so obsessively focused on it? You know she is in crisis or struggling or depressed or simply cra cra...what about her behavior do you think is going to change by your focus on it?
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
