afraid I have waited too long #4

[Ahoy]

Hi nit -- I hope you didn't read my post as criticism. I'm sure you're doing what you have to do for your own peace of mind in your own circumstances. In my case, I avoid even asking clarifying questions because 1. I usually have nothing to gain from the information, and 2. My H thinks that I'm prying into his business, which drives him further away from me. I just wait, and if and when he has something to say or reveal to me, he will. This also allows for a bit more detachment on my part. But that's just what works in my situation, and I certainly understand the urge to seek clarity. It is very hard being in this situation!