Thanks Charlie Brown...I appreciate hearing the POV from an HD H, it helps.
I did respond to Cadet's questions...but they haven't shown up yet.
I was thinking last night about 180's. And I think I found one that I can do.
Typically when he pulls away like this in all areas (avoiding me) I get a 'tude...I feel like he's avoiding/ignoring me because if he can't have sex, he doesn't want anything to do with me. And then that creates a snowball effect...I pull into myself further, he pulls into himself (thinking that the 'backing off' isn't working) etc.
I had a thought though...if i see this as him backing off rather than going dark, and I take the initiative and make the first move to ML, maybe, just maybe, next time instead of going dark, he'll simply back off sexually. I don't want him to avoid me or ignore me. When I say "back off"...I want the affection, just not the (what I feel is constant) sexual advances. a hug or snuggle without expectation would be nice. And my thinking is that when he is avoiding me (and i feel attitude from him) that i'm not going to 'reward' him with sex. I need to change my thinking and go ahead and 'just do it' and ML with him...taking the initiative...and see what happens. The worst that could happen is we have orgasms and he gets a good night's sleep!
so my plan is to wear some sexy jammies tonigt and make a move...whether I'm 'in the mood' or not.
