afraid I have waited too long #4

[Ahoy]

hi nit, I'm sure you already know this, but confronting her about the laundry and food and all that is not going to make your situation better. I know it's really hard to bite your tongue when you are being so disrespected, but you'll have a lot more peace in the long run, and won't end up in a nasty back-and-forth rant with W. If you are your best self, then she can't blame you for her unhappiness and decision to D. Show her only your best self, even if it feels inauthentic. Then rant to your friends and family or to the folks on this board instead of to her -- that's what they are there for. Don't confront her any more. If you need to address property issues, have your lawyer contact hers. Stay friendly and stay out of it!