"So I'd encourage anyone that needs help detaching to do the goodbye/hello letters, and to give yourself permission to let go and move on."
That's the most ridiculous thing I've heard on the boards in a long time. What you're doing IS NOT detaching. It's still running away from a problem. Just like when you were in MLC.
Detachment is removing your emotions from your situation so that no matter what you spouse does, it doesn't affect you. It's not a take it or leave it scenario.
It shows you don't understand what DBing is. It's not all a "ploy" or plan to trick your W back. It's a life change. When you say that you are going to "try" to DB, shows that you don't get it.
You've been at this for just under 4 months. It takes longer than that to get things in order. My W took 3 years before the fog shifted even a little.
But if you don't have the patience, then file the paperwork and leave. Simple as that. But don't put it under the guise of detachment because that's not what it's all about.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
