This is Bob-Still hanging on

[MrBond]

Since you're leaving, let me leave you a little bit of advice.

"I do think I understand relationships"

Um, no you don't.

" and I think the problem is my wife and I do not mix. I think it is time to let go."

That is a joke. There is no such thing as people not "mixing". It comes down to the individual. You spent more time arguing against the advice given to you rather than just following through. You preferred to blame it all on your W and not yourself.

:I have met someone and I think I will pursue this other relationship."

So the truth comes out. You never really wanted to save your M. You just wanted to put on a half hearted attempt to show that you "tried" to save your M. And now that you feel that you've "tried" (even though you haven't done anything) you can now carry on your affair with a clear conscience.

"I do not think I will be posting any longer."

To be clear, many of the LBS find someone during their fight for their M. They feel that this new person is perfect, etc. and yet they don't do any work on themselves. Problem is that because you haven't fixed any of your own issues (which you keep saying you don't have), you will find yourself in the same situation and you'll be back here again.

Pity. I feel sorry for all of us who wasted our time trying to help you when we could have spent it helping someone who really needed it and not just someone looking at having an affair.