To DB or not to DB, is it really a question?

[Shakspr]

Well, that wasn't perfect. At least I didn't raise my voice.

W wanted help picking out an apartment for her and the kids. I think the 3 bedroom looks lovely. And it's only $275 more monthly!

I cosigned to keep the peace and because I didn't mind too much. She can/will take me off the lease when she has her own paycheck. This was probably dumb. I don't really care.

I asked one question. Has she reconsidered this at all since she filed in August. She said "Yes, several times." I said "Thank you for that."

I told her that I don't think I can help her move and do so with anything resembling calm. I would like to but I don't want to fight. I'd rather be somewhere/anywhere else. She understood, asked if I could think of any of our mutual friends who might be willing to help (but not the ones from church, of course.)

Now, we don't have a lot of friends. Of the ones who know, most understand why she's doing it, but don't support the D.

I get it now. 2x4's have taught me. I screwed up (for years) with my lack of empathy and my other acknowledged sins. I would think her faith would help turn the tide on this...at least giving us some time, a chance to really show change, but it appears that a vow just doesn't mean the same thing to my W that it does to me.

I relayed labug's pointed comments to her jokingly, that she doesn't feel like I listened for years, now she won't listen to me for two months and I'm going crazy.

Karma be a beeyatch. (Or is it kismet? Wait, I'm a Christian...those things don't exist.) Sorry, folks, rational discourse has gone right out the window.

Well, for me, it's back to dreading the effect it's going to have on our kids. And trying to mitigate.