Mleigh - I do think it would be easier if it were over and done with quickly. And I still find detaching to be a daily struggle. But, something clicked in March/April (about 8 mos. post BD) where I just felt different suddenly. He had hurt me maybe one too many times and it was like I removed him from the pedestal I'd had him on for 20 years and placed him, finally, on a 'level playing field' with me. That's when my thinking shifted a little, and I was no longer so concerned what exactly I said or did when dealing with him. Whatever happened, I knew I'd still be ok. Now, I just try to be polite, no R or D talk, try to listen, and take one day at a time. I'm a little scared because I'm starting to question whether I'd be able to take him back if he reconsidered, apologized, sought help, etc. Honestly, I'm just not sure anymore. This is new, like in the last few weeks...Every sitch is different, but you'll know at some point what's right for you...
Me 53, XH 57 M 20 (+1.5) years, no kids BD June '13 H moved out July '13 Confirmed long-suspected PA Feb '14 H filed for D Nov. '14 D March '15
