New here, my fairytale gone wrong

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Hi fthnluv -

I have had many hopeless days over the past 15 months, but one thing I've learned is: they pass. Just like anything else. So hang on until this one passes and you feel stronger again, because it will happen. In the meantime, just about any GAL activity is going to help you take the focus OFF the OW and back on you and what you are doing at that moment in time. Any time you spend thinking about her/them is a moment out of your precious life that you can't ever get back - you gave it to them instead. Don't let her/them have that power! Keep it for yourself and do something fun, interesting, new that will make you feel good about yourself. I've also done my share of obsessing over OW, and all it did was make me feel MUCH worse. Better not to know, and to go on with your life regardless of what he/they are doing today. And, I totally get what you mean about wanting old H back. But, I don't they EVER come back from MLC just as they were before MLC. So many changes going on, they can't possibly come out the other side unchanged. But, if they have a brain in their head, they will learn something from all of this turmoil and come out smarter, and happier, whatever 'happiness' means to them. Hand in there...definitely know where you're coming from...