WAH & MLC? - EA/PA - Please Help

[Zues126]

Sam, I get it. And I'm glad you're venting. Just remember there are three types of spouses. Those that never walk away, those that do and never look back, and those that do and see the light. From a cosmic perspective although walking away is very hurtful, the willingness to grow past that says a lot. No, it's not all better today, but your life wouldn't have been better today had he still been gone. It's not about today, it's about 6 months from now, a year from now, and the rest of your life. You have the opportunity to be with someone that has learned from their mistakes and enough sense to see the value in a life long partnership. What's more, you know he has the capacity to grow and change during difficult times. While there will be more hard times ahead- that's life. But you can do that with a partner who will be there for the count. That's of course assuming he follows through with his current trajectory.

So it's ok to feel this way now, just don't let it sabotage the potential for where you might be in six months. And I hope he sees the value in being patient for a while with you as we'll. I think he biggest hurdle with 'the road home' is that a new R starts with passion and excitement while the road home starts with hard work and rocky waters. Make sure they're not so rocky he can't stick it out, but then again if he can't handle some of the natural repercussions of his actions he wouldn't make it for the count anyway.

Above all, continue to be the woman you want to be. While that's someone with self respect, feelings, and boundaries, I also hope that's someone that can transcend resentment and pain and risk further disappointment and hurt to give the chance for a truly beautiful marriage to blossom.