Feeling stronger than ever

[mleigh4]

Job - that is my problem. I am finding it hard to be in the grey area of detachment and standing. I can either be nice, get along well, be the happy little wife that provides a comfortable home or I can detach and let go, which is actually easy for me to do, but I have to cut them off completely and shut them out. (Which I have had to do with other relationships in the past) I am having a hard time finding that middle ground where I can be both detached but available. How do I do that with no expectations or hopes? I am finding it impossible. So many people on here seem to have this down, but I struggle so much it is overwhelming. I'm not sure if I can do this.

Even though this has been going on for a year, I am at the 4 month mark of living back at home with my MLC'r. Is this something that has taken others time to adjust to? Please anyone out there, any tips will help me. Some different perspective I can wrap my brain around would be very helpful. I am feeling at this point like this may be hopeless for me.