I agree, your son is entirely too young to have a debit card. What does he need that for? Is this a checking or savings account? Something definitely doesn't smell right to me about all of this. Yep, J wants to get his hands on his son's money. He will do anything to get access to more money. I hope I'm wrong, but I don't think I am.
Stick to your guns on this one. Your son doesn't have to do a darn thing w/his money if he doesn't want to.
That movie should be a good one w/some laughs along the way.