She wants to be family and friends and a divorce.

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Just wanted to say, two of my closest friends have an open relationship with their wives, and they have been married 15+ years to both of them. They did tell me one thing, you only go into that lifestyle if you marriage is strong to begin with. I don't know if yours was strong to begin with (truly) and it is probably best for that to stop ASAP. Granted giving her an ultimatum would only drive her away (most likely).

You need to focus on GAL and 180s as best as you can to focus on yourself and show her the things you can be. IF your W decides she wants to R that lifestyle will be a topic you have heavily explore, just right now isn't the time.

Focus on your kids, that is the best GAL you can do right now. Also exercise and eat better, it helps clear your head and also sleep better. Lay off the sauce as much as possible (if you drink that is). Your wife doesn't want to think of a future with you (neither does mine). What interests did you have before you became M? What are things you have always wanted to do and that you can afford right now?!?

I don't know what other people would say about this, but break off contact with the OM (forgot if you had), nothing good can come of that (especially if you are confiding in him about your W).

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