She wants to be family and friends and a divorce.

[joli83]

Ok so I'm on break for a bit and can write something longer.

I came here looking for support and ways to deal with my anxiety day to day as I follow the DR 7-step plan. With my current 180 based on Steve from chapter 9 of that book I have seen baby steps and softening from my wife.

Unfortunately when I explain my non traditional marriage folks immediately say get rid of my wife's other relationship or file for divorce.

On the first, I do not want to lose my friend. As I have explained he has been one of my loudest cheerleaders through this and has been supportive and caring about getting my W and I back together if we can be happy and healthy. Making my wife who just dropped the DB on me choose between us in some sort of ultimatum is not going to go my way. Almost guaranteed. Shes friendly and wants to see me but has almost 0 interest as far as I can tell in trying at our marriage right now.

Thats leads to number 2. Thats why I'm here. Thats why the DR is my bible right now. Thats why I set up phone counseling through this site. To work on DBing and getting to were we can try to repair and save our marriage. I do not want a divorce.

If you can and want to, please help me DB and ignore the other guy for now. im just focused on myself and her.