Been thinking a lot about our 11-year anniversary, which is coming up in just a couple of weeks. Funny, at this time last year I thought we were on the right track and well on our way to a solid future together. We usually go away to a cabin in the woods each year to celebrate, but I guess we'll be skipping that this year...I certainly didn't make the arrangements this year...didn't seem like it would be wise.
W hasn't had anything to say about our MC session or her "homework" assignment, and I haven't asked.
W came home from work last night in a good mood. Said it had been slow all day but that she'd had a good time because she worked with a friend that she's not usually scheduled with. She gave me what she calls a "jump-up hug" when she came in...you know, jumped up into my arms and wrapped her legs around my waist, and said "let's have date night at home tonight," which for us means making dinner and hanging out on the patio together while the kids entertain themselves. Sounded great to me and I said "sure", but I'm not really sure what to make of it since two days earlier she was saying she was done and that she doesn't think anything will change her mind. I guess what I need to be vigilant about is taking things at face value and not assigning any deeper meaning to them.
W mentioned this morning that it was getting to feel like Ren Fest weather (she's a huge Ren Fest nerd, one of the things I love about her), and without really thinking about it I said we should go weekend after next. She responded "Definitely...It's a date." Again, seems great that she responded so enthusiastically...but seems weird in light of what she last had to say about her feelings regarding the M. So yet again, face value etc etc. The day we go to the Ren Fest will be a couple of days after our anniversary, so I guess if we were to celebrate it at all, that would be how...but I'm not confident I should be framing it like that...either to myself or to her.
Not sure how to handle the upcoming anniversary really. From a DB perspective it almost seems like making as little note of it as possible is the way to go...but knowing my wife, that could actually work against me. I had already bought her a small but sentimental gift a while back, before things fell apart. I think it might be best to get her a card and give her the gift, and treat her to a day at the Ren Fest. I don't know...I'm going to have to think about how to best navigate this.
H: 43 W: 37 M: 11 years T: 12 years S: 11 D: 8 ILYBINILWY, "I want to move out" and "I want a divorce": 3/23/14 MC started: 9/22/14 Affair and past infidelity discovered: 9/26/14 Piecing: 10/20/14
