If this is one of her love languages (acts of service) I would get on it fast. (Isn't it one of her LLs?)
Yes it is. There are a few more examples of this (post BD), and in those examples, I stepped up to the plate and delivered.
Some of those things have been lingering for at least a year, and they were things that I saw as simply "nagging". That must have emptied her love tank quickly.
Originally Posted By: 25yearsmlc
As for what is going on with the OM, or how tech savvy he is, who cares?
this is about YOUR LIFE, not his.
I know, I know. I just can't help but to compare myself to him. I feel like it's a "win" whenever I can one-up him. I use it as motivation to better myself in both the areas where he currently has the edge, and areas where I outshine him. For example, I know that he has been letting his health/fitness slide. I am more physically fit than he is, so one of the GAL that I'm doing is to get into the gym regularly and eat clean. I have lost 15 lbs since BD and look/feel better physically than I ever have.
I have a feeling that you're going to say that I'm taking the wrong approach on this -- that I need to make these changes for me, and not to get my W back. Fundamentally, I would agree with you. However, in my mind, I'm doing both, if that makes sense. Even if I'm forcing myself to be better for the wrong reasons, the fact remains that I'm bettering myself. I'm faking it until I become it!
Originally Posted By: 25yearsmlc
How about a post that has NO mention of him or his wife, and only speaks of your growth and healing, or a new GAL or some other 180s?
I'm Looking forward to that!
*sigh*... Me too. Me too.
M: 15 years BD: 6/25/14 EA/PA: starts 5/14/14 11/30/14 - A ends 5/15/15 - D is finalized. 11/28/15 - Start of new LTR with a wonderful woman (and still going strong)!
