Yes, knowing would help me understand how I can undo this. I am trying to understand if this is a phase or a new permanent state.

My goal is to have a deeper more fulfilling and passionate connection with my wife and reconnect with her.

Yes I am reading the other threads smile

This just frankly all seems so hopeless at this point.

M(32), W(32)
T: 12yrs
M: 5yrs
D-Day: 7/12/14
ILYBNILWY: ~8/2/14
S: 8/20
Discovered OM: 8/20/