Are you actually forgiving them or are you accepting what they did is part of who they are and putting it behind you? That is where I am at. I look at forgiving as a bigger act than just accepting and moving on. So I am struggling with using the word forgive.
I agree that they may never change, ask for forgiveness, or think an apology is necessary. I accept that and don't dwell on it. To me accepting that and moving on is not the same as forgiving. I don't harbor anger or speak badly about her or her actions. I accept that she owns them and I cannot control them. All I can do is to try and limit their impact on me.
Is that forgiveness? I don't know and I don't know if I need to strive for something bigger?
Twisting on Life's Rope Me53 W53 M20 D21 D19 D16 BD 2-2013 D final 1-2015 _________________________ "Dream about tomorrow, Live for today, Learn from yesterday"
