She wants to be family and friends and a divorce.

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So I think I just dont know how to handle her. She is responsive to calm and happy faux family life. She responds positively to no expectation romance and said it awoke genuine feelings of warth for me but then retreated. She will occasionally slip and use pet names or flirt or talk about sex things before she realizes its awkward and retreats. She thought our first conversation about me not wanting the divorce was a very good conversation. She wont talk about the legal part of the divorce at all. But will talk about child-support, housing, finances. She has said that she will not risk her relationship with OM in order to come back to our M. I dont think she needs to but maybe she or he does? (this is opposite of any stated feelings so far from any party) Steve in chapter 9 of DR has been the example I have been trying to use. Care for her without smothering, invest more time with the kids, etc. I just don't know. Help!