Bright, Your friends and family mean well...but you need to learn to cut them off at the pass. When they begin asking questions or providing "advice", tell them that you appreciate all of their concern, but you will determine what is best for you and then change the subject. They are not walking in your shoes, hence, they don't understand what you are going through. Until they do the walk, they'll continue to offer free advice at every corner. Shut them down in a polite way.
As for your h, I would respond back to his text, just as you would an old friend. There is no harm in that. He asked you about your time away and I would share a bit w/him. Open the door just a little bit and maybe the communications w/him will get him to post more often.
Please do not allow others tell you what to do when it comes to how you are living your life.
BTW, I think I'm the 100th poster on your thread. Time to think about a new thread.
Job, you were indeed the 100th poster and locked right after that.
I just needed to get it out yesterday, didn’t even think that the thread would lock.
I do need to learn how to change the subject with my friends and family. I should know better by now.
As with H, as soon as I get used to not hearing from him and think that he is completely gone, he surprises me with some text or e-mail. So, it still up and down for me, even though the rollercoaster is a little slow right now. Like in slow motion. Still sickening...
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
