She wants to be family and friends and a divorce.

[joli83]

One of her complaints at BD was that we didn't talk or do things together just us. Everything here says don't be romantic (with no expectations) but she usually responds very positively to these things or at least at first. It causes her to doubt her choice and have to consider that she does still have romantic feelings for me even if they are buried pretty far down right now. Then she backpedals when she is afraid how it will affect her relationship with OM. She doesnt want to risk losing him or having to choose between us. As far as I'm concerned she doesnt have to. I was using the example of Steve (?) in the putting it together chapter from DR as my guide but everything here seems to be the opposite.