The more we resist, the more they have to spew. To push harder, until we stop resisting.
It doesnt mean they dont care. It doesnt mean they dont worry about us or our kids. It doesnt mean they are unfeeling monsters and whether we want to believe it or not...this process hurts them just as much as it hurts us.
not my experience: I have detached, and moved on with my life, and am pretty happy my xh still spews if he gets any chance. He also shows (nearly nine years on) virtually no concern for his children, and certainly not for me. I would say he was angry, more than anything else, possibly at himself, but certainly projecting it on to those who were once closest to him.
I still think it is MLC, but I think they pretty much stop caring about anything and everyone. As to whether they hurt or not I do not know. I am sorry if they do: I wouldn't want anyone to feel the hurt I initially experienced.
But he is married to someone else, and I would hope he is happy!!
my xh still spews if he gets any chance. He also shows (nearly nine years on) virtually no concern for his children, and certainly not for me. I would say he was angry, more than anything else, possibly at himself, but certainly projecting it on to those who were once closest to him.
