So since you have read SSM you know that the LD person is the one that CONTROLS the frequency of a SSM.
When you reject him is their anything else that you can DO? A marriage is 50/50 and you need to put 100% into your half of the marriage. How are you doing that? Do you know what your love language is? Do you know what his love language is? I am sure that the two of you are speaking different languages.
Have you read the DR book?
What other 180's can you make?
Men are very sexual animals and when we pursue and woman distance, which is the way it normally works, it can be very frustrating for a man.
Emotionally women pursue and men distance. I am sure that is just as frustrating for a woman.
