Settlement will be signed soon. Need advice.

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NewB3, it seems like the forum likes to make the posts I send your way disappear.

Out of curiosity, your signature says you have a S10. How has he handled all of this. Forgive me if I missed something reading over your situation.

I know exactly what you mean with your S3.5 acting out. Last year was horrible for my S9 when my W left. He suddenly developed this complex about not being good enough, calling himself stupid, and having dreams about me leaving him on the side of the road and driving off. Whether or not he actually had those dreams, I'm not sure. But, the message was pretty clear. Of course, W doesn't want to hear any of it because that just reminds her of the consequences of her choice to leave. Breaks my heart everytime W is here to visit and to watch the kids' faces when she leaves.

Who's to say why she's calling and asking questions. As hard as it is, I would say just let it be what it is and don't read too much into it. Keep it as positive as you can. I would say that follow the same rules as before - brief conversation and be the one who ends the conversation. Don't be rude, obviously. Friendly and polite is the best way to go. And at the end of the day, be thankful that she is still making contact with you. If any thing more develops from it, let it do so naturally.