Hi jim,
Patience is something I have learned to embrace and you should try .
I Made all the common mistakes early on being pushy ,rediculous demands, getting angry,getting emotional, saying thing I shouldn't have done .
It was a few crazy weeks but I've started to GAL and 180 and keep as busy as possible to stop myself from dwelling and my mind going to dark places .

If you read threads on here you will see that for some people it's never to late .

And remember this motto when times get tough . Become a man only a fool would leave .
It helps me a lot .

Me 40
W 37
Together 22 years
S18
D12
WaW 12/08/14 after affair exposed , suspected for several months
W returned home for 2 weeks to see if can handle family life
After the 2 weeks she has left .