Can I get her back??..

[LoveMyW]

Love,

The muscle for dealing with loss and depression is very rarely exercised. I, likewise, work in a high stress environment and I think I do fairly well given about 6 years experience.

It would not be a surprise if a WAS is looking or found another individual but these usually do not last. They are usually full of compatibility problems, people trying to escape reality, uncommitted emotions, raw emotions, maybe drugs (at least in my case), etc... If these do happen it is almost always a drop kick to the face.

If you keep yourself civil and appropriate on ALL forms of communication, and are not cold, explicit or cruel this will also help to get the WAS to rethink their endeavor. A WAS will still act cold and cruel but do not feed their cake eating.

Positive reinforcement in all forms helps greatly, you are who your friends are. Good luck.

Very true Riley.. I suppose if that muscle got worked more it wouldn't hurt so much when it does!!..

I can unequivocally say that there is no OM at the moment.. Whether she is looking, I don't know, but there isn't anyone that is currently on the go.. I have stopped snooping after I proved my point in the earlier days of S, but there have been no red flags to say so.. If there is a current OM, she is doing a VERY good job of hiding it, and keeping her daily life identical.. I honestly don't think she is looking AT THE MOMENT either..

I am staying civil within conversation, and although I have had a couple of muck ups from "jumping the gun", none of it has been cruel, cold or overtly explicit (more flirtatious than anything)..

Myself and this site are my positive reinforcement at the moment, as I have no real friends where I currently am, and most of our friends are mutual, so I don't want to burden them with my issues.. Unfortunately, my family isn't really worth talking to about it either..