Need Help before I blow a fuse.

[25yearsmlc]

Thank you. I do not think planning anything will be good. I will just get a simple card and leave it at that.

You have children, correct? Isn't it true that

IF God told you the ONLY way it'd be possible for you to have your children in your life, would be to go thru your marriage and this trouble, ALL over again, --

you'd do it all in a heartbeat?

Maybe say that^^

AND OR just send her a photo of them saying something that celebrates the undisputed good things in your marriage, i.e. your children.


POSSIBLE WORDING includes but is certainly NOT limited to my suggestions!

"It's still worth remembering",

"we did something right",

"I'll never regret the day we married, b/c without this anniversary, we wouldn't have these wonderful people in our lives".

"Thank you for having our children"...

"I'll always be grateful to you for these blessings" (insert photo of the kids)

"No matter where the road takes US, I'll always be thankful for THEM", etc.

I DO think it's odd to ignore such a big anniversary and particularly when you have children. IF nothing else, you'll make THEM feel better...

FYI, my h sent me flowers and a perfunctory card on our 24th, so for our 25th, I went to Italy and took our 3 kids. That's the trip I had dreamed WE would take ourselves...

Best trip I ever took - and it really did help ME and the kids to know WE were going to be fine, regardless.

Come to find out, it bugged the heck out of h that he could not reach us when HE wanted to....(yeah well, I know the feeling)

but it was pivotal within me, and perhaps within HIM b/c we did seem to get along more after the trip.

I probably resented him less and he probably took me/us for granted Less.

Anyhow, good luck!

PS what about being totally open and saying

"I know we are in a very rough patch, and we may not be together forever. But I know one thing that is forever, is my love for our children and my gratitude to you for bringing them into the world. Thank you".