This is terrifying - I hope you understand

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Oops... took too long to edit. I'M USING UP ALL THE REMAINING POSTS ON THIS THREAD!

OK, I cited the above threads because I think you're like me, always trying to explain why you do something, but you need to be vague about GALing.

I like the advice about rehearsing because that's what I do. Otherwise, I'm stuck, like a deer in the headlights. I have to practice being vague. I've used rehearsed lines so many times when I've been unsure of what to say; they are little crutches that gave me confidence.

My favorite rehearsed lines: "I've been thinking things through." Or, "I've got a lot to think about." And "You've given me a lot to think about." They are like the little black dresses of rehearsed lines because they can be used so often.

SHE: Where are you going?

YOU: Just out. You've given me a lot to think about lately. (Say this as if she's done you a huge favor, given you SO MUCH to think about.)

OR: Out with friends. Thinking things through.

And then you drop all thoughts of her and go have a good time.