A few tips, do these things for you, and dont tell her as the book says. Be mysterious, you want her to take notice, become confused, there is a reason GAL, 180, PMA are the cornerstone triple threat techniques on the board. These build YOU up, makes you focus on the one thing you have control over ... YOU. you have to stop obsessing over her as hard as that is, I relate, but you have to for YOU.
Exactly. I did not tell Mr. Gritty anything about what I was doing. He found out about my activities when our kids told him, or when a mutual friend told him. I think I told him about one activity when he pressed me. I am an open book, normally.
I really wanted to send him updates, like, "Wow, having a load of fun at the lake, wish you were here [happy face]" but I DID NOT. Yay me. I didn't post photos on Facebook, either. (Occasionally our friends would post a photo, but I never did.)
I am waiting for the next drop in my personal roller coaster (I expect one to come, it's just a matter of time) but -- like I said -- having something to look forward to boosts my PMA, which is helping me a lot.
I love how Caliguy refers to it: "The Triple Threat."
Originally Posted By: Shakespr
Why/how does GAL to an evening alone (like a Shakespearean plan this Thursday, for example), even work? I would think it would agitate the WAW that she got stuck with the kids.
It doesn't work on her, it works on YOU. If you think it's going to work on her, you're still in the wrong place, mentally. You need to get your head into the space called "This Is For Me, Not Her."
M:54, H:55 T:33, M:27 12/13 BD: EA 01/14 BD: PA, H leaves 03/14 H & OW break up 05/14 H says he will file for D 08/14 H initiates D 09/14 H wants to R 12/14 Still bungling our way through R
