Ahoy ... everyone here can relate .. thats why we all seem to have migrated here.
Just a few things .. 1. I am sorry for your sitch ... I echo the sentiments on what a D-B move he did and I am not talking Divorce Busting, however that brings me to my 2nd point.
I know you feel that nothing has moved, I get there too, but be very careful putting a timeline on it. My ILYBINILWY came over a year ago, she moved out Nov 8th, OM was admitted Jan .... and here I am ... a year later. I told myself a few months ago .. Nov 8th and I am done ... well its coming and I do not see us being where I had hoped .... but ya know what, we are not where we were a year ago either. I do not know if my M will make it. But I do know if I give it a deadline, it will actually be dead on that date. If that's what you want ... so be it ... read enough and everyone has a limit and sometimes that limit is what results in the big turn around, but you have to work on you and be a person the WAS would be a fool to leave first before that card has any power to it.
Point is, for me .. somedays I wanna drop the rope, some days I hold onto it tightly ... sure there are a few I would like to wrap it around a neck ... hers or mine I struggle with ...lol .. thing is .. you will know when to let go for you, not for him, holding onto a date in my perspective, is setting yourself up .. giving yourself expectations... and we all know about those!
