She wants to be family and friends and a divorce.

[joli83]

Ok in my signature as well thanks.
Me 30
W 27
My best friend her boyfriend 35
3 kids S 8 D 6 S 1 1/2
BD 08/03/2014
S kinda 08/03/2014
D Unknown


Ok so yes there is another man in the picture. About a month and a half before she dropped the bomb we mutually agreed to open our relationship to my best friend who is very close to us and our kids. i thought our relationship was in a good stable place for this to happen.

This caused a lot of upheaval and jealousy for me though as their honeymoon period was wild and crazy romantic and I started feeling very insecure. I clung and got needy and demanded a lot very fast and on top of the job change and going from a full time mom to working overnights and seeing the kids very little her stress levels went through the roof. Bomb drop.

We have some bad history from years ago pre-marriage that she has never forgiven me for only "forgotten" and it all came back hard. But she doesn't want to lose me she says. "We are great friends, and perfect parents that doesnt need to change." I'm trying God I'm trying because I see this as my in to DB. She wants to be around and do stuff and we can have happy days doing things with the family and chatting via text when she's at work. But keeping my heartbroken emotions in check and not trying to convince her to try again is so hard especially when she talks about something and it lets me talk about the relationship or lack thereof.

She talks about buying a house and what I have to do financially to allow that and she gives me child support and talks about that but the one time I talked about a no fault divorce agreement she clammed up and wouldnt talk about it other than to say oh thats good.

She says things like she loves me and cares for me but can't try on the marriage anymore. She tells mutual friends that she just doesnt have romantic feelings for me. She can still see us old together but not now or in 4-5 years. (day of BD) Or if we ever could reconcile it would have to be by starting at dating and work our way back up to being married. ( a few weeks post BD)