BD and 6 months later PA confirmed (2)

[Bunches]

I've been posting a lot less these days. I sometimes feel like I use this site as a crutch to find answers or silver bullets which there aren't any of for this 'I know'. Also, the constant checking for posts had become a way of focusing on my sitch instead of on GAL.

I have a couple of questions to set my compass as it were.

1. My W has been sticking to a routine which gives us little face time these days but she has begun calling every night at bed time to talk to S and say goodnight. Our S doesn't really talk much because of his autism so I kinda feel like this has become her chance to ask me how I am and tell me some about her day. Is this a bad thing? Should I be cutting that out?

2. W has finally gotten around to covering all of her financials on her own. Its only been a couple months since she got a steady job to handle her own financial affairs. She has made 'a lot' of effort to apologize for how long I had to carry certain items for her. Is this a good opportunity to give emotional support by saying I'm proud of her doing well by handling it all by herself of just something to validate and leave be?

3. I feel like we are finding ourselves in a strange place these days in interaction. I've had some instances where W will pay me a compliment or two. (smell nice, shirt looks good on you, nice butt) They just feel out of place with her un-wavering stand on not working things out. Should I be encouraging these kinds of things with flirting (i.e. pursuing) or should I just not acknowledge the comments and move on?

I just reached 11 months since BD and feel like I just loose track of what my focus needs to be from time to time. When do you really draw the line and pursue instead of just trying to focus on happy self and GAL?