Really listening includes understanding.

This is hard stuff and you know you better than anyone else. You wrote out a great lists or your "wrongs" in one of your first posts.

What she's doing now you see as wrong. What you did for years, she sees as wrong. So where does that leave you?

Someone has to go first in this and you're the one here, wanting to save your marriage.

You could answer the other questions. Perhaps you're just not ready yet.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss