What my W is seemly doing is trying to take anything and everything of value that we ever had. At the same time she also wants to be the martyr who is having to pay for "everything". She told me that she has had to buy clothes for D14 because she "needs to have a set of clothes for when she stays with me". Now, she has plenty of clothes for school. The only reason she needs more is because my W decided to leave. Doesn't it make sense that if she wants her to have more just because she needs to live half the time with her simply because she wanted to leave me and destroy her family, that it stands to reason she should be paying for that?
To her ?
Yes, is makes complete sense....
Just because your plan is different, doesn't make it right...
Originally Posted By: Matt165
If she so hated living here why would she want to just recreate the same home only 30 miles away?
What is the ONE thing that is different in that equation ??
Not trying to bash you, just trying to keep it real here.
Originally Posted By: Matt165
Are MLCers so irrational that she actually believes that she is in the right?
Uhm....yea ???
Why would you say that she is wrong with what she feels ???
Originally Posted By: Matt165
Yes, I deserve the 2x4's. Yes, this is stuff I've been through before but now I have to go see my lawyer and take time off work and out of my life. I have to answer her demands from her lawyer. I have to act nice, when I'm around her because my D14 is always there. I have to hold my tongue when my 14 year old D says how much she likes not having anyone around when she gets home from school until 8:00 at night. She may like it because she's a teenager but it isn't good for her. And at the same time I can't trust my W, even when she seems to be being reasonable. I know that this is just the facts of life for me now and i just need to get used to it. But man it sure can be a pain!
Once again....
Please...
Stop trying to control this and manipulate it, to get what YOU want....
You aren't working toward anything positive for yourself, and you are playing just as convincing "martyr" card, as she...
You aren't the victim in this...unless you allow yourself to be...
Make a plan for YOUR future, and work toward that....
