This is terrifying - I hope you understand

[Nitty]

Shakespr, I wrote a long-winded post last night about 6pm Pacific time, and it is gone!

I think I was a little pushy, but basically I'm thinking you're not doing enough GAL activities. I know you are working out, working on personal growth, but I see GAL as doing fun activities that require planning for the future, some anticipation of enjoyment, as well as possible interactions with other people (making new friends or growing old friendships).

I said I felt you needed to make a list, pronto, of all the things you have wanted to do and never could, either because you put them off, or possibly because your W refused to do them.

I made my list: camping, going to movies, ballroom, watersports, etc., and I started doing them. Planning these events, knowing I have something to look forward to... that is huge in giving me a PMA. (Prayer is huge, too, but GAL... that's acting As If I will be okay no matter what... and I will!)

And it's something I do for myself: Get a Life. With a real life and a PMA I am able to face setbacks and recover more quickly, even if I was the cause of the setback. And heaven knows I've been the cause of so many.

What are you doing to GAL? I don't know you in person, but I think you need to purchase a subscription to a Shakespearean theatre group. Or perhaps you need to join a community theatre group! Purchase some Nascar tickets. Go camping. Join a bowling league.

In my lost post, I suggested activities like these but you have your own list in your heart. What is it that you dreamed of doing? What is it that YOU love to do? Would love to do?

Not what your W would like to do with you, not what would make your W look at you and go "wow." Erase her from this list. What would YOU love to do???

If you can't think of something you'd love to do, just think of something you'd ENJOY. What is it that would make you excited for the weekend, knowing that you had it planned? Something that would challenge you but be fun?

I just don't think that working out is a good enough GAL. It needs to be recreation, something that re creates you.