I'm sorry to see you in this mess. I know the feeling, my heart goes out to you!
I am in a smiliar sitch, but W doesnt talk to the OM and it was a one time thing.
However, she does have male F's. She never used to have many, if at all. It's tough, but all I can say is continue to DB until your heart is no longer in it. Becasue at that point, you would be only hurting yourself.
Interested in the Vets input.
ME: 29 / W: 29 M: 10 (11 in March 2015) BD (ILYBNILWY): 07/26/14 S:12 / S: 7 "We need to separate" : 08/31/14 Wants to see others: 10/11/14 Separation looming