ganb8te, that's another great look at it. I think the challenge for most conflicted marriages, though, is that if you do start using techniques like that, it will be extra challenging because the other person is probably not being that reasonable. If you can get to a point where you both pursue that communication, that's when things could really change.
Me 38, WAW 30 D11 (former marriage) S2 T 8 years M 3 years BD 8/20/23 S 8/20/23