MLC-WAW- Long Road Ahead- Help!

[Nitty]

Wow, you did have a great birthday. And it was a way better birthday because you are being your best and truest self.

You are not playing games, not pretending to be someone you're not in order to reel her in. You are being your best self because you are being true to yourself and God, and in so doing, are being true to everyone else (including her).

This is still a struggle for me but you sound like you're nailing it.

Going to church (after her hint that there was no reason to go) was perfect because 1) it was authentic and 2) it had nothing to do with her.

I like how you just let the possible Tuesday date go. But let's say she did have a date last Tuesday: how can any OM compare to what she has left behind? She's got to see that and if she doesn't, she isn't ready to follow you on this path. I feel like this is a weakness of mine. I feel like I am turning back to meet Mr. Gritty and try to help him along. I do not want to lose the hard-won changes I've made.

I think after that I will press a bit and see where she is with the OM, if she will now agree to work on the M, or if I need to cut the cake eat if that's still going on

As you continue to gently pull away that would be a form of pressing it a bit, wouldn't it? I keep thinking of Starsky's story, where he was moving on, living his best life, and she started to realize she was losing him and told him so, which was where he told her what needed to be done to work on the M.