still holding on - 4

[Ahoy]

I would be careful, u-turn. Who knows why she is asking this of you. Also, is she willing to share her own feelings and needs right now?

I've thought about how I might handle this with my own H if he asks. Maybe I would say something like, "I would love nothing more than to open up to you and share that emotional intimacy, but I feel that right now it might be a one way street. I don't want to pressure you into sharing your emotions before you're ready, but it makes me feel vulnerable to share with you right now because I'm not sure what you're wanting to achieve through this sharing. I stand by my decision to give you the time and space to figure out how you'd like to proceed with our relationship, regardless, and I would certainly be willing to do my part to improve the relationship, if that's what you decide."