Sorry to hear that you've had a rough few days, Elsa. I know it's tough and it is certainly tiring.

You say you want a verbal commitment from H. Based on what you have said about your H (and the similarities with my H) I'm not sure that you are going to get that. I'm also not sure that a verbal commitment would actually count for much in any case. Don't forget that you've got actions, real actions to base things on. Your H is willing to go to MC and I remember you've had some productive discussions following MC about how to make some adjustments.

Be careful not to expect too much from H at this early stage. It sounds like he's giving what he can at the moment and he's understanding his role is some of the confusing communication. Try to be patient and accept that for what it is (a lot of positives from where I am sitting).

How's your D7 doing?

H 37 Me 36
Together 15 years
Married 5 years
No kids
BD Apr 2014
H moved out 2 Jun 2014