Inside my chrysalis 3

[gan]

Ss, I think a lot of us ladies here struggle with being reactive communicators. I know this is an area I am trying to work on, too, even though my H never said specifically that it was an issue. It's just something I've never liked about myself.

Have you read Non-Violent Communication by Rosenberg? There are some useful ideas in there though I find them tough to implement. Understanding triggers is important but so too is shifting the goal of communication - away from trying to get your point across and towards being genuinely curious about the meaning in the other person's words. I guess that's kind of like #1 in Card's list.