"jpLove, I personally would follow Ito's advice, as it sounds like it's in line with DB principles. "

They aren't.

DB teaches you to validate your spouse's right to their thoughts. This isn't the same as flat out agreeing that their perspective as being correct.

M-43 W-40
2D - 9 and 5

Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

RECONCILED AND WISER